Morning good folks! Coffee here (Joanna) and I’m up and facing the day. Already. Thank you, kids, (not really thank you). Waiting for my coffee to finish brewing and this baby to finish nursing.
I want to talk about something that is really relevant and important to me right now. Taking time for yourself. I’m a newly single mom and have started a journey to get my mind and body healthier. This started because after my ex left I realized I’ve spent way too much time putting others before myself. Obviously putting my kids first is cool but I was putting my ex’s needs and wants before my own to make sure he had what he wanted and to make sure he’d stick around. I was always going without, giving up wanted and needs, forfeiting dreams, just to try and keep him happy and here. Well. It didn’t work. And it didn’t make me happy either.
So I decided to take time to work on me. To get my mind and body healthier. Not because of that nonsense about you have to love yourself before you can love someone else or be loved. But because I want to feel stronger and healthy. I want to be in a better place mentally, where I value myself and expect others to do the same or they aren’t welcome in my world. So here I’m am. Reading books about being a badass. I started a 90-day workout challenge, Bikini Body Mommy 6.0, with Sarcasm (Brittany) and a 30-day yoga challenge, Yoga With Adriene. I’m on day 19 of the workout challenge and day 3 of the yoga challenge, which is a HUGE deal because I’ve literally never stuck to anything this long that was strictly something for me. I’m going to finish it and be proud! My body is sore every day and some days I don’t want to do my workout. But I keep going because dangit, it’s time I took time for me. The soreness in my body reminds me of the transformation I’m making physically and mentally, but most important is the mental transformation to becoming a strong woman who values herself and doesn’t put up with bull$hit. And as my kids watch me on this journey hopefully they’ll also learn to value themselves and never let anyone walk all over them!
So take a look at yourself and your life. Is this the life you’d want your kids living? Do you want them being treated the way you are? Or treating others the way you’re treated? If the answer is no, change your life. It’s easy to say, do as I say, not as I do. But kids will do as you do, never as you say, in the long run. Be the person you want them to be.