Far too often we see photos and tv shows with perfect kitchens and living rooms and bedrooms. I’ve come to realize as a mother (at least for me personally) that that shit just isn’t reality. I’ve come to terms with the fact that my house will be wrecked for much longer than I want it to. Know what that means though? It means my kids are cared for. Laundry baskets full of clothes, my sink always has dishes, toys are scattered and I’m exhausted. None of that matters at the end of the day though. When I see how much I am providing for my children my heart is so full that I can’t even her the judgmental asshole in the peanut gallery gawking at the fact that my house isn’t HGTV pretty.
It took me a long time (and 4 kids) to get used to the fact that my house wasn’t ever going to be like that. I had to think deep and release all the shit that had been shoved in my face my whole life about the expectations of a mother. I made the decision to let my home be as it is and let my heart be filled with the love of the little terrorists I created. I stopped caring so much about what other people thought and started to focus on what I thought. I could care less that my children destroyed the living room. That means mommy got a moment to climb mount laundry without any distractions or sticky fingers in my clean laundry. I don’t care that I left lunch on the table even when they walked away. They are gonna ask me for a snack in 10 minutes anyway! Problem fucking solved!
Listen, mama. Your babies don’t care if you make your bed every day or mop the floor once or a hundred damn times. What they do care about is climbing in your lap and reading a book. They care about playing tag in the house even though the rule is no running. They care about the I love you’s and the silly faces. Don’t let the haters get you down. Own up to the fact that mom life isn’t perfect. Accept it just as it is and LET IT GO. I’m telling you, that God damn Elsa lady knew what the hell she was talking about.
My house is a wreck and that’s ok with me because my heart is full of life and love and my lap is full of giggles and fruit snacks.